Step Twelve

Step Twelve is Strengthen Others.  Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, share this message of hope and healing with others and practice these principles in all we do.


2 Responses to Step Twelve

  1. Tonight at the 12 step meeting we discussed Step 12 which talks about the fact that the principles taught in steps 1-11 can be applied to all aspects of our life, not just the part involving addiction. I love a quote by Elder Orson F. Whitney stating “No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God . . . and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tribulation, that we gain the education that we come here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father and Mother in heaven.”

    As we go through these learning/growing experiences we call trials we learn things that can give us the capacity to help others. There are women everyone going through the same trial we are suffering through and what a blessing it is to be able to help others because of our experiences. And our comforting it is to know that we are not alone.

    As we discussed this step as a group it was expressed how the twelve step program is really an in depth study of the atonement and how to apply it in our lives and how we are benefited in all aspects of our lives by applying the principles taught. For some the twelve step program has taught them about personal revelation, for some it has taught how to have a greater testimony and trust in our Savior and His Atonement, for some it has taught how to serve others and love others better. As the concept of the 12th step is applied, and sharing what has been learned, it also becomes a great missionary tool. The list could go on and on but essentially applying the principles of the 12 step program blesses each persons life in the way they need it to and to what level they choose, but everyone is strengthened by it and feels extremely blessed to have it a part of their lives.

    Stories were shared of service that has been rendered to individuals and service performed and what a blessing and answer to prayer it is to be the giver and the receiver and how rewarding it is to be the giver of service and how greatly our lives are blessed as we apply all the principles of the 12 steps in all aspects of our lives.

    • Sacajawea says:

      Thank you for this insight on the 12th step. I wanted to share, too, since I can’t get to the meeting often.

      In teaching, I learn. In sharing, I more fully understand. So many times, things become clear to me in the middle of writing or speaking or in the process of explaining things to someone else. This is the value of the twelfth step to me, beyond the joy of helping others— it helps me.

      It anchors me in the place I worked so hard to get to. Even if I don’t have the opportunity to share or teach someone else, if I have that desire overflowing inside to share it, (and at least write it!) I will stay progressing, rather than backsliding.

      Some in the 12 step groups do feel the glow of personal growth but assume that it is there to stay. Not so! That glow can only stay as much as we share it, (or desire to and are willing to share it) by serving.

      It makes me so sad to see people fall from happiness and from God’s path, because we are all so connected, and when one falls, the ripple extends. Many are affected. I feel the weight of it.

      When I hear of sad events– someone committing adultery, abortion, or murder, or being sucked in to pornography, or abusing family members, or or accusing someone of sins falsely, or abandoning the church for some wrong philosophy they got stuck believing, or someone turning to worldly answers and neglecting their children or God, (the list is endless) I hurt! I fear!

      Yet, God’s servants promise there are tools that can save us from many of these pains: the tools we all know about– scriptures, prayer, the counsel of other church members, journal writing, general conference, temple worship, service! These simple tools are not cliches. They are the iron rod.

      By clinging closely to them, we cling to safety and progress toward the beautiful love of God and peace and joy only His path brings. By taking the tools casually, by shrugging them off in favor of other things (even harmless pastimes that distract us from these tools) we risk everything!

      No one wakes up in the morning, thinking, “How can I hurt my family today? How can I backstab myself today? How can I block out God’s peace today?” Yet these are the effects, when we leave the saving tools on the desk and casually neglect them for other things.

      I love Lehi’s dream. (1st Nephi 8 to 15) It shows the nothingness of worldly pursuits and the everythingness of pursuing Christ’s path. It shows the danger of not picking up those saving tools that are the iron rod. It shows that even for those of us who are desperately, hopefully clinging to the rod of iron (God’s word and His path), there are still mists of darkness that swirl around us, scaring and confusing us. Yet we are safe as long as we cling to that iron rod. I believe this with all my heart. It is a path of safety and it is the only path of safety and sanity in this life.

      I get scared when I see my ex-husband teaching our kids, by his casual example, that keeping the commandments is just okay, but not of dire importance. I get scared that they’ll follow his casual lead and end up spiritually unsafe, wandering off into strange or dangerous lifestyles. I hand my fear over to the Lord and I keep clinging to the iron rod, hoping my children will choose to follow my example instead of their father’s. But it’s up to them. And I pray the Holy Ghost will influence them, yet I know I can not force the issue, no matter how much I love them, and no matter how much I know this path is the right path.

      This reply sort of rambles; sorry! I just wanted to say that I do believe that the 12th step is important. It’s missionary work. It’s service. It’s helping others not make the same mistakes we have made. It’s holding on to the iron rod of safety by picking up the simple tools of scriptures, humble prayer, and active faith. It brings me peace like nothing else.

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